Better to desire than be desired
Plus: divorce talk, 90s sex myths, and more in the weekend roundup.
Happy weekend. This week, we’re covering all the bases—from Kristen Stewart in a jockstrap to, well, the meaning of life. (Related, perhaps!)
To the links…
A question over at Dirt: “Is it better to desire or be desired?” Contrary to the title of my own memoir, Want Me, I must emphatically answer: to desire.
I’ve been doing some light reading on the meaning of life, courtesy of Viktor Frankl’s Yes to Life. A choice excerpt:
It is not only through our actions that we can give life meaning… we can fulfill the demands of existence not only as active agents but also as loving human beings: in our loving dedication to the beautiful, the great, the good.
Time to debunk some 90s sex myths.
Jia Tolentino on how motherhood has changed her:
I don’t know if parenthood has changed the way I see the world as much as it’s given me a more visceral understanding of things I might otherwise have thought about primarily in terms of material structures: healthcare, education, certain kinds of consumption, this inexcusable US-funded war.
This week, I returned to this essay by Melissa Febos on the history of the term “slut.”
I’m also currently reading two excellent “divorce memoirs” from
(out this week) and Leslie Jamison (out soon).